How can we get over a breakup?

A breakup can crush your joyful dispostion and replace it with tearful despair. Here's a true story about a pair of breakup couple- Jeff and Susan. Susan says: " We'd been dating for six months and had been friends for five years. When he wanted to end the relationship, he couldn't even face me. He just stopped talking with me. I felt helpless. The dissapointment was overwhelming. I kept asking myself, what did I do wrong?"

Why it hurts?
If u've been in a situation simalar to above, you might well wonder. "will I ever be able to move on?" (Psalm 38:6) Your distress is understandable. Breaking up may be one of the most traumic experiences you've ever had to endure. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a minideath. You may even find yourself going through these and perhaps other typical stages of grief:


Denial: It can't be over. He'll change his mind in a day or two.

Anger: How could he do this to me? I can't stand him!

Depression: I'm unlovable. No one will ever love me.

Acceptance: I'm going to be all right. The breakup hurt, but I'm getting better.

The good news is, you can reach the acceptance stage. How much time it will take to get there depends on a number of factors, including how long your realtionship lasted and how far it progressed. In the meantime, how can you cope with your breakup?

Moving Forward
You may have heard the saying, Time heals all wounds. When you first break up, those words might ring hollow. That's because time is only part of solution. To illustrate: A cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional wound. Right now, it hurts. But there are steps you can take lessen the pain and keep from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours?

Allow yourself to grieve
There's nothing wrong with having a good cry. After all, the Bible says that there is " a time to weep" and even " a time to wail." (Ecclesiastes 3:1,4) Shedding tears doesn't mean you're weak.

Take care of your physical health
Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the energy lost from the emotional toll of breakup. "Bodily training is beneficial," - Timothy 4:8

Keep Busy
Don't stop doing the things that interest you. And now, more than ever, don't isolate yourself. (Proverbd 18:1) Associating with those who care about you will give you something positive on which to focus.

Pray to God about your feelings
This might be a challange. After a breakup, some even feel betrayed by God. They reason, 'I prayed and prayed that I would find someone, and now look at what happened!' (Psalm 10:1) Would it be right, though, to view God as merely a celestial mathchmaker? Surely not; nor is he responsible when one party does not wish the relationship to continue. We do this about Jehovah:" He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7) So pour your feelings to him in prayer. The Bible states: " Let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels al thought will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus." - Phillippians 4:6,7

Looking Ahead
After you've had time to heal, you might do well to take a close look at just what happened in your past relationship.

Hope this sharing can help who need help in this^^